12.06.2008
Red Hot Docs: A Complete History of My Sexual Failures
http://www.sydneyfilmfestival.org/film_details.asp?id=71&...
Alright, I admit, the title of the film is a bit bizarre (or perhaps it’s the selling point itself?). But this feature length documentary from UK was included in this years’ Sydney Film Festival and was proven to be a very popular one. I know, I was there.
“A Complete History of My Sexual Failures” was also a hit in Sundance, introduced by one of the festival facilitators. I’ve copied the introduction from Sydney Film Festival’s page:
“Dumped by yet another girl after just three weeks, shabby (with no redeeming chic) and hapless thirtysomething Chris Waitt embarks on a mission to determine the 'why' behind his failed love life. Confused by his multitude of ex-girlfriends' decisive lack of interest in being interviewed for his new project, and yearning to reconnect with the only long-term love of his life (who is totally unavailable), he creates a MySpace page to attract new options and soon reveals an embarrassing performance problem. As the quest becomes more urgent, so the slapstick comedy escalates. Documentary-making as personal sex-therapy is hardly a new form, but this riotously funny film is less interested in the darker preoccupations of I Am a Sex Addict or The Good Woman of Bangkok, and more driven by a beguiling hopelessly romantic everydayness. CS”
Sounds interesting? Well yes. It was even more hysterical when you actually watch it. The audience sort of knew what to expect but the extreme length the director/film Chris Waitt went through was unbelievably painfully comically hilarious. We human being must be a very mean species – how we enjoy laughing at people’s misfortune!
Chris Waitt was there at the Beginning of the film to introduce his documentary. When he started speaking we knew he had a wicked sense of humour. Perhaps more like the Monty Python type of humour, or perhaps that’s really the only type of British humour I’ve encountered with. (then you count the Black Adder, Fawlty Towesr, Yes Minister…) Anyway in the end of the film he again presented himself there for audience to ask him questions. By that time we already felt that we’ve known Chris, in person, for many many years, after watching all the humiliating things he had gone through in the film. There was not a lot of questions relating to film/documentary making. People are more interested in the aftermath. The audience just loved this likeable loser, and an accidental filmmaker.
Apparently it took a very experienced editor to work on it from 400 hours of footage to form this documentary. No one in the production team, even the filmmaker himself, was sure about how it would turn out. But in the end it all worked out well. Because as it turned out, “A Complete History of My Sexual Failures” was not just about sex, it was about, as corny as it might sound, finding love.
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03.04.2008
愛情的熱度
越熾熱的越無法維持.
心被燙了. 留下的只是疤痕.
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28.04.2007
愛的公式
張小嫻在一本書的序中, 借用了一個英國物理學家的話, 解釋時間的曲解與真實. 時間僅只是人為的測量方式, 並非真實的存在. 存在的, 只是現在.
換句話說, 現在, 便是永遠, 不是嗎?
照著這樣的推論, 當我說"我永遠愛你"的時候, 也不是一個荒謬的謊言了.
因為, 我現在是愛你的. 現在即是永遠. 於是, 我永遠愛你.
如果愛情可以照數學的推論, 因為所以地推斷出來, 那麼我們應該是存活在一個單純簡單絕對的世界裡吧.
然而, 愛情沒有絕對, 沒有公式, 沒有白紙黑字紅字就能批改的形式.
有的只是人心的複雜, 人心的變換, 人心的脆弱及自私.
愛情可以是美好的, 在美好的時候. 但是當我發現已不再愛著昨天還愛著的你呢?
那麼昨天我說"我永遠愛你"的這句話不是一句謊話嗎?
可是當我說的那時卻是那時的現在啊.
那時的現在不就是那時的永遠嗎?
那時的永遠和現在的永遠一樣嗎?
物理學家的世界裡有真愛嗎?
當他嘗試著用公式去向自己所愛的人表達愛意, 也是浪漫的嗎?
曾聽說過數學家可用公式來證明上帝的存在.
Can they also prove the existence of love?
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27.04.2007
戀CLU
The air smells nicer when you are around
Music sounds better when there is your voice accompanying with it
You are within reach
This simple fact is enough to make my day brighter
I am instantly happier than I was
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26.04.2007
與你的開始
離開香港, 飛往東京的航班上, 我吞了顆止暈藥, 戴上耳機, 在輕爵士的音樂聲中, 緩緩不自覺地昏睡了過去.
慌恍中, 我夢到你.
我已經在離開你的路上, 以為不會太掛記你. 我們僅是露水情人而已, 可是我竟然在這時夢見你.
夢裡的你對我說著話, 沒有什麼新的意境, 你只是重新地把我們的對話在夢裡重複一次.
我隱約中醒了過來, 又再昏睡了過去. 四個多小時的飛行中, 你還是在我身邊陪著我, 用不同的方式.
我們的相聚, 短地兩夜一天, 我在你的懷裡纏綿繾綣. 你是我的情人, 我特意選定的, 消磨時間的情人.
一生一次的相聚, 然後各自奔向各自的盡頭, 盡頭之後是沒有影子的. 因為一像拘謹的我, 只想在那個沒有人熟識的城市裡, 小小的冒險一下.
然後, 你出現了.
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寫給舊愛的文字
因為搬家的緣故, 多年前手寫的記事簿一本一本重新出現在我的面前.
從初中開始養成的習慣, 我總是在書包或提包裏擺放著一本記事簿; 年少時是寫詩, 成年後便開始寫著旅行札記和生活感觸. 漸漸地記事簿裡的文字開始被男女情愛而佔據. "總是在戀愛" 是幾個知心好友戲謔我的稱號, 因為愛情對當時尚還青澀的我來說, 愛情是必要的氧氣是美麗的祕密是生命的唯一選擇. 我無法想像沒有高飛狂洩的愛情的日子能如何過. 於是也因為這樣, 我陷入了許多苦戀.
多年之後再讀這些為了舊愛而寫的文字, 還是難免有些心悸. 一是因為現在的生活已經離當時的情緒太遠太遠了, 一是因為當時的情緒居然是如此濃重而不堪承受. 閱讀他人的私密一樣, 然而這是屬於我自己的私密. 我曾深愛的人, 錯愛的人, 錯過的人, 太過的人...
這幾天我會陸續地將這些手記整理出來, 將它們放在部落格上, 如同儀式一般, 告別過去.
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26.01.2007
BABEL
昨晚與M在朋友的推薦下一起去看了電影"BABEL" (中文譯名為"火線交錯"), BABEL分別敘述同時發生在三個地區原本看似不相干的四段故事, 在緩緩鋪陳下才發現每一段故事各自的因果關係都與另一段緊緊相繫. 由一個錯誤(或愚蠢)而造成的連串悲劇, 又因為語言文化的隔閡而加重了悲劇的發生. 對我來說BABEL是一個令人心碎的電影.
電影取名"BABEL"其實是取自聖經創世紀的故事，其中一章記載著古巴比倫擬建造一座通天的高塔，上帝見而憂道：＂他們成為一樣的人民，都說著同樣的語言， 如今又做起這樣的事來， 以後他們要做的事就沒有不成就的了．＂ 於是便變亂人的口音將他們分散至各地，人們互相無法溝通， 塔也就因此停工了． 這座從未完成的塔就建在Babel城理， 史稱＂巴別塔＂．於是ｂａｂｅｌ一字變代表著＂變亂＂的意思．
於是這齣戲便圍繞著因為語言及文化的差異而產生的誤解, 與隨之而來的悲劇. 悲劇的產生不僅僅是語言的溝通, 其中一段故事的主角是一對美國夫婦, 即使是說著同樣的語言生於同一文化, 卻是相敬如冰無法溝通. 另一段主角則是個年輕漂亮的聾啞人士, 完全失去了語言的能力, 只能靠著自己的肉體本能討取注意...
人與人之間的瞭解原來不僅僅只是語言而已, 最遠的距離也不是用尺度量. 心碎沒有國界.
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27.12.2006
牛奶與酒
『男人像酒，』很多人這麼說: 『越陳越香。』
那麼女人呢?
我常常跟朋友開玩笑說女人若用飲料來比喻的話，像牛奶。
牛奶跟酒不一樣，每一瓶在出廠時就印上了有效期限；一過期就酸了，下架了。懂得保養的可幻化成為優酪乳，把有效期限稍微延長了一點，包裝也變得精緻些。還有更幸運的一群則化身為起司。
不過最幸運的應當屬於成為藍起司(Blue Cheese)的女人了。懂得品味這種起司的人不多,只有極少數金字塔尖端的老饕了解它的可遇不可求。 於是當藍起司女人遇到對的人衷情獨特世事時, 即使她的臉孔佈滿了皺折她的身軀瀰散著腐朽的氣味, 還是有人會不計一切的把她當作美饌來珍藏愛戀。
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21.12.2006
靈魂的伴侶
這幾天通勤時讀的是伊能靜寫的"生生世世". 多愁善感的文字其實滿滿地寫著幸福. 雖然有一點看著他人私密日記一樣的窺視感.
書裡其中一篇是這樣寫的:
"經過歲月累積, 我才知道最好的情感, 其實也就是找一個伴, 一起吃飯一起散步一起看別人不順眼, 就像兩個沒有性別的小學生一樣, 要約好對方上學, 要一起去福利社, 放學的時候還要兩個人手牽手頭碰頭, 說一些沒意思但很認真的廢話, 當然偶爾我們會鬧彆扭, 但頂多也就是在彼此的地盤裡畫一道界線不讓對方進來."
這些簡單的句子居然讓我在列車廂裡有種流淚的衝動. 因為真的, 這麼多年跌跌撞撞盲目尋找所謂靈魂伴侶的我, 毫無預警地遇到了你, 你並不是我想像中的白馬王子, 也沒有揮動著長劍來拯救我, 你只是輕鬆隨性地邀我一起走走, 然後我們說說笑笑地就沒有再分離了.
我一直以為靈魂的伴侶應該是披著浪漫的衣裳說著詩般的話並且不用言語便能通曉對方的心思. 然而我終於了解人生重要的另一半其實是個能在做了傻事說了錯話誤解了對方之後還會相視而笑, 為彼此的稚氣而捧腹.
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24.10.2006
我看著你
那一年, 我漂洋過海地到了你的城市與你一同生活.
你的城市, 在夏季裡是個充滿慶典的城市. 於是我們在不同的節慶裡快樂奔馳.
你幫我照了很多張相, 每一張都是我的獨照, 因為你喜歡我看你的眼神. 透過鏡頭告訴你我有多愛你.
多年之後, 我看著那些你為我照的相片, 我還能感受到當時的愛戀.
我看著你. 我看著你. 我只看著你.
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